To all you unmarried young women my advice to you is : get
married.
Marriage is a great institution. You get love ( and all that it entails ), companionship and friendship. There is someone to greet you and prepare a cup of tea for you when you get home after a hard day's work, someone to talk to, someone to take care of you when you are unwell, someone to prepare good food for you, and someone with whom to share your thoughts, worries, and aspirations.
Men are beautiful and wonderful people. Of course not all of them. So you must do a background check about the nature of your future life partner. In my opinion the nature of the young man is more important than his looks. I know of some very beautiful men who had a terrible nature, and made their wives' lives hell. On the other hand, I know of many plain or even ugly looking men who had a such a good and kind nature that they made their wives' lives heaven. So check up from some people about his nature before you marry him.
You should also check up about his academic qualifications and work experience. This is important because in these days of high prices it may be necessary to have a working and earning husband, because your own income may not suffice for two persons and for the coming child or children ( don't have more than two as you may not be able to afford it ).
Give the young man respect, be kind to him,and take care of him, and in return he will make your life full of joy.
But remember a shloka in Sanskrit about the nature of many men :
" क्षडें रुष्टा क्षडें तुष्टा रुष्टा तुष्टा क्षडें क्षडें "
i.e.
" A man is angry at one moment, happy at the next, angry again the moment thereafter, and happy again the next "
So from my own experience of marriage ( and I have been married for many years ), the way to handle your man is to become mum when he (is) enraged ( Tandav charh jai ), and wait till he is cool again. Thereafter you will find him very sweet and full of affection for you !
Hari Om
Marriage is a great institution. You get love ( and all that it entails ), companionship and friendship. There is someone to greet you and prepare a cup of tea for you when you get home after a hard day's work, someone to talk to, someone to take care of you when you are unwell, someone to prepare good food for you, and someone with whom to share your thoughts, worries, and aspirations.
Men are beautiful and wonderful people. Of course not all of them. So you must do a background check about the nature of your future life partner. In my opinion the nature of the young man is more important than his looks. I know of some very beautiful men who had a terrible nature, and made their wives' lives hell. On the other hand, I know of many plain or even ugly looking men who had a such a good and kind nature that they made their wives' lives heaven. So check up from some people about his nature before you marry him.
You should also check up about his academic qualifications and work experience. This is important because in these days of high prices it may be necessary to have a working and earning husband, because your own income may not suffice for two persons and for the coming child or children ( don't have more than two as you may not be able to afford it ).
Give the young man respect, be kind to him,and take care of him, and in return he will make your life full of joy.
But remember a shloka in Sanskrit about the nature of many men :
" क्षडें रुष्टा क्षडें तुष्टा रुष्टा तुष्टा क्षडें क्षडें "
i.e.
" A man is angry at one moment, happy at the next, angry again the moment thereafter, and happy again the next "
So from my own experience of marriage ( and I have been married for many years ), the way to handle your man is to become mum when he (is) enraged ( Tandav charh jai ), and wait till he is cool again. Thereafter you will find him very sweet and full of affection for you !
Hari Om
(With due reverence to Justice Katju. See the context here)
